In the winter of 2007 I was considering taking a new job and went to talk to John about the implications of taking it. He gave me his blessing and I celebrated with him and Sandy that Christmas when I got the job. Eighteen months later I am considering my next move and wishing I had the two of them to talk it through. Which is selfish - missing the two of them should not be all about me, right? But it is one of the many reminders of how friends, and in particular these friends, influenced my life and my choices, and enhanced the meaning of them for me. How I miss them both.